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The giddy sensation you feel when you match with someone cute on any dating app can quickly die down if they hit you with a straightforward, personality-less 'hey' as an opening line. Sure, 'hey' does the job of opening up the conversation, but it's not particularly interesting and doesn't really make someone want to reply. Finding fun, clever, witty, or even silly opening lines for OkCupid, Hinge, Bumble, or your preferred dating app of choice can seem a little tricky if you're lacking inspiration. (Um, yes, hi, me.) But don’t stress. In 2009, the OkCupid team conducted an experiment where they analyzed 500,000 first messages on their site, and found several factors that play a part in whether or not you get a reply from an OkCupid intro — and whether or not that could lead to a first date.
The experiment looked at keywords and phrases, how they impacted replies, and what conversation starters really made a difference. Based on what the experiment found, OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder created a few suggestions (and blogged about them on the dating app) to consider applying to your own OkCupid intro. First, he suggested users spell out full words, and not use abbreviations. Second, he suggested trying to avoid physical compliments. Instead of 'hey' or 'hi,' saying something like 'How's it going?' — a question that requires an answer — has a higher chance of response. Rudder also suggested bringing up specific interests based on something you saw on your match's OkCupid profile.
Even earlier research from 2015 — published in an OkCupid data report from 2016 — supports starting a conversation with something other than “Hey.” Data scientists from OkCupid found sending 'Hey' had an 84% chance of being ignored. After scanning more than 1 million conversations, the report also found data scientists that, across all sexual identities, 40-90 characters was the ideal length for a successful first message. That said, not adhering strictly to the 40-90 characters “rule” didn't offer much of a difference between 'good' and “bad” conversation starters. Most tellingly, the report found short and sincere messages (i.e. something from their profile you liked or found interesting) were more likely to result in a good conversation.
Short and sweet messages do the trick, as does sending a question to be answered, but beyond that, what makes an OkCupid intro message worthy of a response? Do you send a punny first message? A thoughtful one? Is it better to be cheeky? Sexy? Is a lame first message actually kind of endearing to a stranger? Damona Hoffman, OkCupid Dating Coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast, says that even though she’s not a huge fan on pick-up lines IRL, “on a dating app they actually can be effective and might even make the recipient laugh, which can lead to a reply.” When in doubt, go for a laugh. And if you’re worried how that might land, Hoffman recommends you can “acknowledge the cheesiness of pick-up lines or the fact that you're sending it with a wink and a nod.”
Hoffman adds that according to internal OkCupid data, “30% of users said that asking a question is the best ice-breaker followed by a simple introduction, which is preferred by 27%.” So a cheesy opening line and a question are both icebreakers OkCupid users are clearly into. But if you’re still stumped on what to say, try these suggestions below.
- Titanic. That’s my icebreaker. What’s up?
- If you have a three-day weekend, where are you headed? The beach? The mountains? Bed?
- Let's skip the small talk, want to meet up for a drink?
- You’ve just won a free trip to anywhere in the world! The catch is you have to leave tomorrow. Where are you headed?
- Hi, I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
- I still use my ex's Hulu log-in, and yes, I will gladly share it with you.
- This ismy life story in four emojis: [insert emojis.] What's yours?
- Two truths and a lie, go.
- Name a theme song that adequately describes your life.
- If you could do anything around the city right now, what would it be? (Let them answer, then say, 'Let's do it.')
- Hey. So, it’s not safe for us to talk here. Siri and Alexa are listening. We should meet up so they don’t record our conversation. What do you think?
- Serious question for you. Best discovery — avocados or Netflix?
- Before we get to know each other, I just need to put it out there that I will need you to kill all the spiders for me.
- Before we get to know each other, I just need to put it out there that I will kill all the spiders for you.
- Are you ready for some smooth math moves? OK, here we go. Are you an angle? Because you're so acute.
- Should we talk for a while or do you want to just cut to the part where I take you out on the best date of your life?
- It's karaoke night at your local bar, what song are you screaming the lyrics to when it's your turn to sing?
- Do you believe in love at first swipe, or should I un-match you and make you swipe again?
- If you were a vegetable, you’d be a cutecumber.
- I’d like to take you to the movies, but they don’t let you bring in your own snacks.
- I think there’s something wrong with my phone. Could you try calling it to see if it works?
- If you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple.
- Want to play “Never Have I Ever?” You go first...
- What’s your sign?
- What are you doing this weekend?
- What’s one quality you think your best friend and romantic partner should both have?
- Tell me about the best first date you’ve ever been on.
- What’s your go-to hangover meal?
- Let’s play a game of This Or That. I’ll start: Dinner, or drinks?
- What’s the most important quality you look for in a partner?
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Additional reporting by Kylie McConville
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Damona Hoffman, OkCupid Dating Coach and Host of The Dates & Mates Podcast
Women over the age of 20: OkCupid finally has pulled together a study that explains why men now find you physically repulsive. Handy! The study, found in OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder’s new book Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One’s Looking), purports to show that while women on the site remain primarily attracted to men their own age well through their 40s, men stay attracted to 20-year-old women for, well, pretty much their entire lives. As Rudder himself puts it: 'From the time you're 22, you'll be less hot than a 20-year-old, based on this data. So that's just a thing.'
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'A thing,' indeed. The chart documenting the study has already been spun into a number of alarmist and alarming trend stories (like this great Daily Mail headline: “Are you a girl over 22? Then don't even bother with online dating”), and fits in nicely with the rising trend of articles and studies declaring various ages as the time when women become most beautiful and/or stop being hot forever. Do women peak physically at 30, as this Allure-sponsored study suggested? Are women suddenly hotter than ever at 42, as this memorably dunderheaded Esquire essay declared in July? Is beauty more important than age for women when it comes to landing a man, as this other recent study implies?
Since most of us are raised from a very young age to both obsessively track our own worth by comparing ourselves to other women, and to obsessively track the relative peaks and valleys of our own romantic prospects, studies like this basically immediately nest in our brains, alien-from-Alien style.
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But before you resign yourself to a future comprised exclusively of dating scarecrows that you have cobbled together from cat hair and water-logged copies of Modern Bride, there are some other facts to consider.
While these kinds of studies are always phrased ambiguously for maximum impact/ panic clicks, they're actually usually less closely linked to real-world behavior than they seem at first glance. In fact, Rudder himself noted that while these numbers reflect the “who’s liking who” information on OkCupid, the actual messaging patterns of men on the site show that they’re much more likely to message someone closer to their own age. And no lesser authority than the New York Times has picked apart the way Rudder draws secondary conclusions from the data he gathers.
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But more importantly: these surveys chart the desires of EVERY kind of guy on OkCupid, not just the guys you'd want to date. The study takes into account the tastes of sexually overconfident Juggalos, guys who believe that “girls only like douchebags,” guys who think “I have already married and divorced you in my mind” is a good pick up line, and other men you would most likely not touch with a 10-foot 20-year-old. The reality is, none of us are trying to appeal to every heterosexual guy on OkCupid — or every heterosexual guy in the actual world, for that matter. So falling outside the lines of what a cross-section of every kind of straight dude in America finds desirable is not really much of a tragedy, and isn’t going to have a real impact on your dating life.
And perhaps most importantly: one of the things that changes most about dating as you age is the qualities you desire. Though many of us consider hotness a primary priority when dating in our late teens, when we get older, that generally begins to come second to the kind of qualities that make a man someone you're able to spend the next 20-60 years around without constantly wanting to fake your own death. And —shockingly!— men who want to partner up also want to find someone who's actually pleasant to be around and build a life with, instead of just finding whatever cute young dummy is most easily available. And you know what else? Dudes who do want that cute young dummy? YOU DO NOT WANT TO DATE THEM ANYWAY! There’s a lot more at work in successful love and romance besides the “lust” that Rudder refers to here.
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So please remember to take all of these kinds of studies with a grain of salt. While there's a lot we can learn about human behavior from what people do when 'no one is looking,' there's a lot you can learn from the way people act when we're looking, too.